NeverGetBusted Tip: Teach Your Kids The Value of a Secret

After reading the wonderful article, “Pot Parents: Smoking’s Better Than Drinking!,” I decided to to give a tip regarding children protecting their parents so they NeverGetBusted.

I’ve received lots of emails and heard many reports involving children telling on parents…usually by accident. One small girl triggered a raid by taking a marijuana leaf to school for a “show and tell.” Another third-grader got his parents busted because he had been around pot smokers all his life and freely discussed his parent’s lifestyle with his teacher. These mishaps can happen to any good parent so take these precautions to ensure you NeverGetBusted.

The first thing a parent should do is teach their child the value and honor of keeping a secret. These “house secrets” are vital to a family’s security. A great way to teach this is tell the small child the contents of another person’s birthday gift and brag each day the secret is kept. We always made this a fun game for our kids and rewarded them with praises during their success.

We also taught our kids to never keep a secret from us and if any adult ever insisted they keep a secret from us to immediately tell. This step protects your child from sexual predators who often demand secrets must be kept.

After the parent is confident the child understands the value of a secret, then simply tell your child all the truth you know about all the different drugs. Don’t just talk about how good pot is and how evil other drugs are because that is not true.

We teach drugs cannot be “good” or “evil” because substances do not have a soul. We also teach that as long as character qualities (honor, integrity, kindness, selflessness, etc.) are not flawed from substance use, then the use of that particular substance is not “abuse.” The word “abuse” means so many different things to so many different people. Some people think drinking one beer is abuse while others think the use of any illegal drug is abuse. Teach your kids to distiguish between drug “use” and drug “abuse” by concentrating on character qualities of the person and not the substance, frequency or amount of what they use.

Another good idea is to explain to your older children that if a burglar broke into your home and stated, “Where are your kids? I want them,” you would lie to the intruder who was about to cause harm and say, “They are not here.” Follow up by explaining you expect the same protection from them when harmful adults come asking questions about your pot use.

All parents should make it clear to their child that prohibition causes more harm on humanity than drugs ever did.

Read the article “Pot Parents: Smoking’s Better Than Drinking!



  1. Anonymous on

    Great article, Barry. 🙂

    Keeping personal details of family members and activities private goes beyond just protecting a family member from drug use prosecution. Everyone should talk to their children about how and when to keep personal details to themselves. That includes giving out personal details to teachers, police, principals, and other parents. There’s nothing wrong with asking, “Why do you want to know?”

    During Ronald Reagan and George H.W. Bush’s presidencies, it was common to receive questionnaires at my schools asking lots of personal questions. When I questioned the teachers and disagreed with such practices, they said, “These are anonymous and don’t have any bearing on this school. It’s a federal questionnaire for statistics purposes.” My feeling was why would the govt spend so much money just for worthless data? The people in charge spent a lot of money for a reason.

    All questionnaires of a personal nature should be refused by children in schools. They can tell teachers their parents said to get parental consent first or hand the sheets in blank.

    Questionnaires regarding drug use can be misused. If lots of students say they aren’t using when they are, Feds can use that as proof of funding campaigns working when they aren’t. If students say drugs are easily available, the school may end up with armed police showing up like in Goose Creek, NC (Stratford High School).

    Questionnaires regarding personal feelings and well being can be misused too. In the United States, filling out questionnaires about feelings and thoughts can land a child in a mental institution or legal trouble.

    Like Barry said, it’s important for children to be taught how to keep private family business private. It’s good advice when dealing with anyone outside of the family. If nothing else, thieves love people who brag about all of their neat stuff. “What else did your family get for Christmas? And where do you live again?”

  2. Anonymous on

    Love your tips Barry, I’m aware of another that happened in Calgary, Ab.
    In the Newspaper it said a child at home of the age of 3 dialed 911 accidentally. The 911 claim they called back and when the Officers showed up they stated that because no one answered they had the right to do a complete search of the house.
    Of course, while doing the search the found a locked door to a room which they made him open and they found his small grow.

  3. party marty on

    Sit on it man!

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